为什么妻子越付出,丈夫越出轨

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小溪已经结婚5年了。当她恋爱时,她就像大多数情侣一样。她经常在一起。她吃东西,然后去路边小摊享受它。这部电影是一部糟糕的电影而笑。当我把路推到深夜时,我总觉得道路太短.似乎有很多时间可以说。

在恋爱的第三年,他们觉得他们没事。两人自然结婚了。后来,带着孩子,小西辞去了工作,专注于在家做家务。

我以为这两个人都有情感基础。我以为我的丈夫会一如既往地对自己好,但我从没想过我应该开个玩笑。“婚姻是爱的坟墓。”

丈夫迟到了回家,躲避并谈论社交;回家和宝宝一起玩,睡着了,两人基本没沟通,越来越疏远。

小溪注意到这不是一个好势头。不要在心里担心太多。他每天都开始向丈夫发信息。每天,我都不知道有多少次我不能回家吃饭。

上班前,我为我丈夫准备了午餐。我晚上做了一张桌子,很多次我睡着了。结果,人们在外面吃饭。慢慢地磨,没有耐心,我开始责备并抱怨。 “我为你付出这么多,生下你的孩子,最好的年轻人给了你,这是给我的吗?”你说的越多,你就越冤枉。你是怎么嫁给这样一个人的,它真的眨了眨眼!

小西不是一个案例,甚至可以说是常态。大多数结婚的夫妻最终都会面临无聊的无聊激情。这种关系中的共同模式是,女人拼命地追逐并拼命地抓住,而男人拼命地跑出去,最后出轨,离婚等等。

因为太多人忽视了一个简单的原则。缺货原则:机会越少,价值越高。害怕失去某些东西的想法比获得某些东西的想法更刺激人们。

The influential godfather, the famous social psychologist Robert Siodini, described this principle in《影响力》.

A woman is like a book, you can't let him read the ending at once, so it's boring, and marriage is naturally no fun.

If your daily life is around him and around the family, he knows that you are always there, he quickly understands all of you, sees you and determines that you can't live without him, then he will cherish you.

The ultimate growth of marriage is personal growth. Every day is a new self. Your relationship is new every day. Every day, let him fall in love with you again. It is the essential point to maintain close relationship.

What should I do? And what are the principles that must be paid attention to in the relationship?

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